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Feb 17

Full Circle of Life

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{Horrible Housewife talks about the full circle of life} Death should not be seen as the end but as a very effective way to cut down expenses. -Woody Allen

How often do you get a true full circle of life? Sometimes we get a balance of life, and sometimes we get wam-bam-thank you ma’am’d, but how often do we get a legit full circle of life? This time we did. Julius Schensky was born on February 16, 1914 and laid to rest exactly 99 years later; almost 3 months after his wife, Michaleen Schensky, passed.

Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. -Aristotle 

Julius Schensky had dementia. In a day to day setting dementia will drive family members bat shit crazy, and it did; however, I only knew Julius with dementia so his final years were ‘normal’ to me. Despite his demntia, my memories aren’t filled with his repetitive questions and trips to the hospital. My memories of Julius are filled with this robust man’s infatuation with Michaleen’s well being. It was a love one can only hope to have with their spouse.

One of the last cookouts Julius and Michaleen attended happens to be my favorite memory of them, and a beautiful example of  how enamored he was with his wife. I watched the baseball game and talked with them as person after person came in and asked if they wanted to go outside. Person after person got the same response from Julius, “I will do whatever Mickey wants to do.”

He didn’t want to leave her side. He enjoyed her company so much that he put her needs before his own; he loved her. There isn’t anything more moving than a romance that is still alive at their age. (I hope Michael got that trait! Haha!)

Those with dementia are still people and they still have stories and they still have character and they’re all individuals and they’re all unique. And they just need to be interacted with on a human level. -Carey Mulligan 

I will never forget the last time I saw Julius, as it was the first and only time I ever saw him have a good day. It was Autumn Ridge’s Christmas party and I won’t sit here and lie about my minimal desire to take on the daunting task of packing up a 17 month old. (I don’t like packing him up to go anywhere.) Julius typically had no idea who I was and usually asked Michael where he was working 5 times per visit. This time was different. This time there was a glimmer in his eye like he knew who I was. This time he was able to reminisce about children walking up and down the stairs. This was one of those times that gives people hope.

Julius Schensky’s full circle of life

Estranged families gathered for two days to celebrate Julius’s full circle of life. Emotions ran high and in the end Julius was laid to rest in front of all of his survivors, despite their differences. Maybe this was his master plan all along? Maybe his death will serve as the bond needed to give certain relationships their own full circle of life?

{Horrible Housewife talks about the full circle of life} The only thing worse than checking in on your phone at a funeral, is tagging the person in the casket.

Time for a confession- I thought about checking in at the funeral so people knew where I was and it would decrease the large quantities of emails I get on a daily basis. Can you believe this oversharer went down the path of privacy for two days? Shocking! Never fear… oversharing will begin in 5, 4, 3, 2, 1… I was censored by my husband. Pfffttt!

See… back to normal. ;)

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Mallery

My name is Mallery and I am a recovering workaholic. I curse like a sailor. I'm a mix of obsessive and awkward. I talk about bowel habits more than I should and I enjoy wine, gaming, and tattoos.

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  1. Cinny

    ohhh, lol, those cards put a smidgeon of humor on an otherwise serious event…lol
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  2. Maria

    My mother is almost 57 yrs old and has early on-set dementia (so young, I know). My only saving grace is that my 2 sisters & I work full-time in healthcare and have worked or still work in Nursing Homes. We take turns, pitch in and maintain humor when we can. She would want us to laugh. Thank you for sharing!!
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  3. Krystle(Baking Beauty)

    I love that you shared your memory of them not wanting to leave each other’s sides. Such a touching way to remember them!
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  4. janet

    This is one of the sweetest dedications I’ve seen because it’s just real. And…omg, I think I might have been tempted to check in as well!
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  5. Samantha K

    Thank you for sharing such great memories.

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  6. Kelsey Apley

    Very sweet and honest way to remember them. Thank you for sharing!
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  7. Tesa @ 2 Wired 2 Tired

    It’s wonderful that they loved each other so much. This must have been a very difficult time for you. I’m glad you were able to still find some humor along the way with the ecards.
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  8. mel

    What a sweet way for you to remember them! They had true love!
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