How often do you get a true full circle of life? Sometimes we get a balance of life, and sometimes we get wam-bam-thank you ma’am’d, but how often do we get a legit full circle of life? This time we did. Julius Schensky was born on February 16, 1914 and laid to rest exactly 99 years later; almost 3 months after his wife, Michaleen Schensky, passed.
Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. -Aristotle
Julius Schensky had dementia. In a day to day setting dementia will drive family members bat shit crazy, and it did; however, I only knew Julius with dementia so his final years were ‘normal’ to me. Despite his demntia, my memories aren’t filled with his repetitive questions and trips to the hospital. My memories of Julius are filled with this robust man’s infatuation with Michaleen’s well being. It was a love one can only hope to have with their spouse.
One of the last cookouts Julius and Michaleen attended happens to be my favorite memory of them, and a beautiful example of how enamored he was with his wife. I watched the baseball game and talked with them as person after person came in and asked if they wanted to go outside. Person after person got the same response from Julius, “I will do whatever Mickey wants to do.”
He didn’t want to leave her side. He enjoyed her company so much that he put her needs before his own; he loved her. There isn’t anything more moving than a romance that is still alive at their age. (I hope Michael got that trait! Haha!)
Those with dementia are still people and they still have stories and they still have character and they’re all individuals and they’re all unique. And they just need to be interacted with on a human level. -Carey Mulligan
I will never forget the last time I saw Julius, as it was the first and only time I ever saw him have a good day. It was Autumn Ridge’s Christmas party and I won’t sit here and lie about my minimal desire to take on the daunting task of packing up a 17 month old. (I don’t like packing him up to go anywhere.) Julius typically had no idea who I was and usually asked Michael where he was working 5 times per visit. This time was different. This time there was a glimmer in his eye like he knew who I was. This time he was able to reminisce about children walking up and down the stairs. This was one of those times that gives people hope.
Julius Schensky’s full circle of life
Estranged families gathered for two days to celebrate Julius’s full circle of life. Emotions ran high and in the end Julius was laid to rest in front of all of his survivors, despite their differences. Maybe this was his master plan all along? Maybe his death will serve as the bond needed to give certain relationships their own full circle of life?
Time for a confession- I thought about checking in at the funeral so people knew where I was and it would decrease the large quantities of emails I get on a daily basis. Can you believe this oversharer went down the path of privacy for two days? Shocking! Never fear… oversharing will begin in 5, 4, 3, 2, 1… I was censored by my husband. Pfffttt!
See… back to normal.