Warning… this isn’t a funny Wine with Mallery. Sorry folks! I have something weighing heavy on my heart today and I need to talk about it. I drank an OK wine and witnessed my first abusive relationship. I’m all sad face over here. Day 15 of the Advent Calendar has been no good, no good at all. Can we get a Wine with Mallery do over?
Wine with Mallery cliff notes for those who can’t watch the video…
This Tempranillo wasn’t my favorite Wine with Mallery of all time. It was a less than stellar Argentinian wine, and I love wines from Argentina! It had a very mild nose and a bit of ‘bite’ on the finish. I wouldn’t say this is a solo drinker at all, try it with a pasta dish. This is probably going to be a $3.99 Trader Joe’s special I will pass on in the future.
I am pretty sure this weekend I witnessed my first abusive relationship. It was sickening to watch. Watching made me feel helpless. My stomach now has an everlasting knot in it that I wish I knew how to make go away. Maybe this post will come up in a Google search for ‘how to leave an abusive relationship‘ or ‘getting help for someone in an abusive relationship‘ and I will feel better knowing I directed someone to valuable resources.
We were shopping at Toys ”R” Us Saturday where we walked by a man, woman and child as the man was verbally abusing the woman, in front of their child and the whole store. The look of terror on her face still haunts my memories. It was so bad I had to stop and watch as I made the judgement call not to say anything to the couple, not my proudest moment. I told the people surrounding me I felt like we were on the TV show What Would You Do and someone should say something to him. No one did.
You guys know I normally have a vomit of the mouth thing going on, not this time. I just couldn’t bring myself to say anything because I had Michael with me. Who’s to say he wouldn’t have redirected his aggression on the two of us? Is that selfish of me? That is a tough decision for any mom to make. Ugh!
I couldn’t stop thinking about her as I walked around the store. I just kept telling Daddy Michael how I wasn’t going to be able to sleep later that night. I have never felt so helpless and I have come to the conclusion that people just don’t know HOW to help. I don’t think it has anything to do with them not wanting to help, they just don’t know what to do.
It made me feel a little better to see someone had called the cops and the couple was talking to him as I walked out of the store. Maybe she was saved tonight? Maybe it will be the straw that broke the camel’s back? Or maybe… I don’t want to think about what could happen.
This section provides contact information for organizations that can help support you if you have been in an abusive relationship, or are seeking help after or to prevent sexual assault.
This first group of websites provides general information on what domestic violence is, how to get help, and links to just about any aspect of abuse you might look for, including safety plans, links to Power and Control wheels and extensive lists of books, articles and of state coalitions.
Please, I’m begging you to get help if you are being abused.